It’s not what you thought? Play with What You Have
Take a good look at everything in your life. Your surroundings, experiences (external and internal), what you’re struggling with, what you’re growing through, what you have, what you wish you had. Now, close your eyes, put your hand on your heart. This is your present.
A couple of weeks ago, I got caught in comparison quicksand again. I could feel myself becoming disheartened, drowning in disappointment. One night, I started scrolling through my old insta posts and was reminded of a powerful lesson: It’s not just the ability to create specific results I value, it's the experience of being fully present in the process of creation.
I spent a lot of my twenties measuring my life and self against a picture I had in my head. A lot of those pictures were fantasies I created based on what I thought I needed to do and be to get love.
“The paradox of the 4 is that they’re so afraid of being average and uninteresting they sabotage their chances of becoming exceptional by refusing to engage in the commonplace behaviors it would take to get there. While this type possesses the intelligence, creativity and drive to succeed and inspire the masses, they’d rather be a tragic failure than a moderate success - so instead of shooting for the moon (and risk ending up as just one more average star), they stay stuck in the gutter, where they can at least reassure themselves that if they did try, they’d be far more impressive than everyone else who’s out there trying.” - Unknown
Giving myself permission to be average has taken the pressure off and created the space to do the daily actions I need to succeed.
When things don’t work out like we want, it’s easy to get stuck feeling like a failure. We get so lost in the fantasy of how we think things should be, we miss the beauty of the reality we’re creating.
It’s not what you thought? Play with what you have.
The illusion is there is one “right” path, and if you get off it (i.e. fail to create exactly the picture you saw in your head) then you’ve failed. The Truth is, there are millions of possible scenarios. What’s more important is that you’re present.
Radical acceptance of all that is clears your vision and allows you to work with what’s here. There’s no one right path, you ARE the path.
If you’re constantly feeding the illusion that you’ve screwed it up, you’ll be less likely to trust your own decisions. If you’re wandering around muttering “I’m lost” you’ll miss the clues leading you home.
How deeply can you sink into the present moment and be with what’s going on in and all around you?If you had nothing to lose and nothing to prove, what would you do?
