I am not a slave to my emotions,

But I am a student to them

When people talk about “forget how you feel”

And “push through!!”

“You can do it!!”

I’m like, #FFS

No. 

Stop

You’re hurting my heart

And my delicate snowflake sensibilities

Our emotions aren’t the devil

They’re not trying to take you out 

They’re just trying to tell you something

So if you’re constantly “pushing through” when you’re emotionally exhausted

“Man-ing” up when you feel sad

“Swallowing your pride” when you feel angry

Or even by “surrendering it up” (Ugh. This one kills me. It’s like the “spiritually acceptable” way to avoid your emotions)

You’re MISSING THE LESSON your emotions are sent to teach you

And the FUNDAMENTAL truth they are trying to REVEAL

Your body TALKS

And it does it through your emotions

That’s why when people say, “I’m sad for no reason”

I’m like, “NO!!!! YOU ARE JUST SAD FOR A REASON YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND YET!!!!!”

Call it out, name it;

I’m

Sad

Underwhelmed

Upset

Vulnerable

Overstimulated 

Triggered

Delusional 

Whether it’s hormonal, physiological, emotional or spiritual

The same logic that says emotional pain is an illness to be treated, is the same process that says that feeding teenagers anti-depressants like they’re tic tacs is okay

Emotional pain is a MESSAGE to be FELT 

Now, listen when I say…

THIS IS NOT AN INVITATION TO RATIONALIZE AND SELF-ANALYSE THE SHIT OUT OF EVERYTHING WE THINK, SAY AND FEEL 

Quite the opposite 

Because, 🚨🚨🚨TRUTH BOMB ALERT🚨🚨🚨 

The wisdom of the body isn’t received through the mind, it’s not processed there, it’s not stored there, in most cases, it doesn’t even make SENSE there

It just doesn’t work like that 

We need a new framework, for understanding

And when it comes to emotions, the only way out is THROUGH 

I get that some people would rather die than feel through the full range of their capacity for emotion 

(I was one of them)

I fully thought that if I felt my anger, explored the extent of my pain, dropped into the depths of my sadness, I would never make it out alive…

I believed that if I felt it, it would kill me

Thank God that is, fundamentally, untrue

The feelings you have to feel, won’t exceed your capacity to feel them

The invitation will never exceed your capacity…

You can hold yourself through it 

You can go there

You can feel it all

When your body talks, listen 

Find yourself in a safe, secure environment…

(Preferably not all over your partner, just somewhere you can really let loose)

And go for it, let it rip, let it all out

Cry, kick, scream, throw a grown up tantrum 

(For me, that looks like screaming in the car)

Just let it all out

You’ll thank yourself when you do

Author: Jae

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